Relationships Depression Anxiety Affair Counseling San Diego

Counseling, Therapy, Psychotherapy and Coaching Services

Individual Therapy

There are a number of techniques used by psychologists to facilitate the process of growth and change:

Cognitive Therapy: Focuses on changing unproductive belief systems and patterns of thoughts.

Psychodynamic Therapy: Uses insights – the “whys” behind one’s behavior and beliefs

Behavioral Therapy: Focuses on changing behavior, with less consideration to the “whys”

Throughout my 25 years of experience, I have studied and used all of these techniques. I have ultimately found that each individual brings their unique character and history to the change process. The most successful approach brings together elements of each of these techniques to create a unique therapeutic recipe for productive and rewarding change. My role is to guide you through the change process, continually challenging and encouraging you to make the changes that will lead to a more fulfilling life and rewarding relationships.

Depression and anxiety are two of the most common and insidious disorders. They require different approaches depending on a person’s age and the severity. I have helped many reclaim their power over these challenging problems.

Men in their 40’s and 50’s often struggle with navigating this passage in life. They often feel an omnipresent need to recreate themselves and their lives. The effects of neglected marriages, affairs, physical changes, career plateaus, and success require attention or they may crash and burn. I have a passion for helping men find their way through this rocky territory.

Couples Therapy

The relationship between partners can bring us more joy and more pain than most other areas of our lives. By the time many couples come to counseling, hurt, pain, and resentment have permeated their interactions with one another. They have become stuck in destructive patterns of behavior. The science of neurobiology is making enormous strides in helping us to understand what makes relationships so difficult to change. We have found that the “dynamics” of a relationship are intimately related to how our brain reacts to our partner’s tone of voice, facial changes, gestures, and touch. My approach is to help each individual identify their own part of the relationship dance that leads to conflict or connection. I use my experience in working with hundreds of couples to employ a unique set of techniques and exercises that will move the relationship toward healing and fulfillment.

Substance Abuse

Addiction takes many forms---alcohol, drugs, prescription medication, sex, gambling, food—I have worked with over a thousand individuals and their families with various forms and severity of addiction. My approach is based on decades of experience in helping people transcend the compulsive and destructive behaviors that are common to all of these addictions. I blend a unique set of strategies to help each individual conquer their addiction demons, and begin to build a healthy and fulfilling life.

I have provided substance abuse assessments and evaluations for individuals, families, and the Court. I have extensive experience with blending principles of the 12 step model with psychotherapy both with individuals as well as couples.

For many years I directed a treatment program specializing in cocaine addiction. I regularly conduct supervision for, and consultation to the addiction treatment facilities associated with the Naval Hospital Camp Pendleton.

I have taken special coursework and passed a proficiency exam to become certified by the American Psychological Association to treat “Alcohol and other Psychoactive Substance Use Disorders”.

Families and the Court

I have worked closely with many Family Law Attorneys during and after divorce. I provide treatment for individuals and family members, as well as psychological guidance during this most stressful time. I have experience in how Family Court works and can assist in navigating the difficulties associated with establishing child custody, mediating differences, and managing high conflict divorces. I have experience testifying in Family Court and in helping Attorneys mediate between divorcing spouses.

I believe strongly in the research that indicates the impact of divorce on the children is directly related to the ability of the parents to co-parent following the divorce. I often assist in developing and implementing post divorce parenting plans. There is no greater way divorcing parents can help their children than to work out their differences therapeutically, not in front of their children or in front of a Judge.


Coaching is distinctly different from counseling or psychotherapy. Personal coaching can be extremely helpful for those who find their work unfulfilling, or are discouraged by their performance at work, or in their art or sport. By asking the right questions, I help my clients identify the barriers that keep them from achieving their goals; and I help them develop successful approaches to rising above the specific challenges they face. I offer individual coaching in person and by phone.